How close are you with your sibling? We've all heard of sibling rivalry, but have you ever heard of sibling cuddling? This story you're about to read gets weird quick, and then gets even weirder. A reddit user (who has since been kicked off the site, potentially as a direct result of this... gulp), shared a wild tale of how her closeness — literally and physically — with her brother resulted in problems with her relationship. Read on, and let us know what you think is going on here.
My brother had some business to do in a nearby city from today ’till Friday.
He decided to take a little detour and arrive at my place on Saturday and spend the weekend with me and then take an early morning flight to his destination on Monday since it’s close-by.
I had a very busy and tiring day prior to his arrival though so I told him that I was going to leave the door unlocked and he could just come in as I didn’t want to be woken up (he was supposed to get to my apartment at around 6 AM).
My boyfriend’s yelling wakes us up at around 10:30 AM.
He starts saying how this is ‘basically cheating’, asking if we had sex, if we’re in an incestuous relationship, etc., that this is absolutely disgusting and mega inappropriate and other delusional things like that.
I tell him that we’ve always shared a bed while living at home and that this is 100% platonic.
He lets me know that ‘we were snuggling under the blankets while sleeping’.
I tell him yeah, that’s what people do when they share a bed and it’s cold.
I start to get really angry at him at this point for constantly trying to sexualize me and my brother’s relationship so I tell him that I’m going to spend the weekend with my brother at a hotel and until I come back he better learn how to manage this irrational jealousy of his.
I’m back at my apartment now but my boyfriend gives me the cold shoulder."
Following this story, the internet had a lot of, ahem... questions. The original poster clarified a few things. Apparently, her boyfriend set up a guest room for her brother. The hotel room they got together had only one bed. And whenever she was asked whether or not they were wearing clothes, she avoided the question. The post got so crazy that it was actually removed, but the reactions from Reddit are still here in all their glory. And opinions on this story are all over the place.
There is a guest room which her boyfriend set up for her brother and she admits they intentionally avoided using it and were intentionally spooning (big spoon, little spoon). Then when they got a hotel room together, they made sure to get a room with only 1 bed so they could do it all over again. Lastly, OP keeps avoiding answering what they were wearing, if anything.
I can not imagine it being "OK" with them choosing to have her brother's...pressed firmly up against her...with them holding each other tightly. Then going to a hotel to ensure they can do it all over again (1 bed). Plus, she avoids what they were or were not wearing under those covers.
Sharing a bed is one thing, but nothing in her comments seems right.
I definitely think OP is leaving stuff out. Like how there was a guest bed available and how they were literally spooning. This also probably isn’t the first time something like this as happened. I think the fact that it might be part of a pattern helps to explain and contextualize the BF’s reaction
You admit you two intentionally spooned (big spoon, little spoon). You acknowledge that your boyfriend set up the guest room for your brother, but you and your brother decided it was better to spoon in your boyfriend's bed. When your boyfriend voiced his confusion and concern, you and your brother booked a hotel room with only 1 bed so you two could continue to full-on spoon together again. When asked what you were wearing, if anything, you continue to dodge the question.
Nothing about this seems right.
It is one thing to share a bed, but it is an entirely different thing for you two to go out of your way to spoon one another and then rub it in his face by getting a hotel room with only 1 bed so you can do it again.
It is not normal to have your sibling's...pressed up against your...with you two holding each other tightly. Then for you to get a hotel room so you can share 1 bed to do it all over again. And I cannot help notice you keep avoiding answering what either of you was wearing, if anything.
Is he an only child? Just curious. Some people can't understand sibling bonds. Either an only child or siblings who doesn't have a good relationship. Even then, friends cuddle sometimes too. Siblings even more so. I have a nephew, whom I live with, (we look more like siblings than aunt-nephew) and on a typical free time, we would be on the couch, legs tangled together while I'm on my phone and he on his switch. It's normal.
If he doesn't change his stance on this, you should break up with him. Next thing you know he's gonna sexualize you and your father's relationship when he gives you a hug and a kiss or (god forbid) when he walks you down the isle.
Edit: Changing my vote to ESH. OP had failed to include on the original post that she and BF prepared a guestroom beforehand. While it isn't wrong to cuddle/share a bed with Brother, there IS a guestroom where BF expected your brother to be in. However, it doesn't excuse BF's behaviour when he found OP's bro with OP. He should've handled that better.
I personally cuddle with my sister but only when we HAVE to share a bed. We do have separate bedrooms. (I'm F) and when hanging out in the living room which is mostly leaning against each other, legs over the other's lap, etc.
Also, the hotel room bit. I understand if you had to share with bro to cut costs or that there is no more room available, but instead you shared a room (and by extension, bed, I guess) out of spite.