I'm on mobile, have dyslexia, please don't murder me for errors also throwaway account.
So my (28m) roommate (23f) gets random men messaging her and asking for dates or to "lavish her" pretty often, maybe 3 times a month. (I'm quoting the text messages she took for my girlfriend because they are good friends and my gf loves to laugh at her antics with internet men).
Last night she got a message from a dude which started with "Hi, I'm (his name). I live in Massachusetts and I want to get to know you sweetie."
She said, "Hi sorry, I'm not interested, I'm working on my schooling right now, and my bf is deployed (he is, coming home next month), but thank you for your time messaging."
He then went on to say, "Well, a REAL man wouldn't just leave his queen for a desert flower, I can make you feel good baby."
She said: "I bet you're a great guy but I already have a great guy and I love him a lot so I'm sorry but I'm really not interested."
He said, "Fine sl*t, go to the man who will leave you for years, it is women like you that make men have trust issues. Talking to random men on the internet makes you a wh**e, I cant wait til he comes back and breaks your heart for cheating on him."
She said, "Maybe if you weren't a creepy dude who messages girls on Facebook you would find yourself a queen."
He said "that all the women were at home, so it's the only way to find girls. You're lucky that I messaged you. I have a well-paying office job and you could have chosen an easy life. "
Instead of blocking him, she took it one step farther. She said, "I'm sorry sir but no the women are not at home, they are out and about and have lives this isn't the '50s. And since clearly all the women you work with have already rejected you, you can add my name to the list as well. Goodnight have a great time trying to find a woman to put up with your sh*t" and then she blocked him.
I asked why she didn't just block him from the beginning and she said, "I've gotten so many of those messages since I was 16, I know when a guy will not let up if you don't message back, or when if you block this account you'll get another in the next 5 minutes, sometimes instead of blocking 20 different accounts made by the same person. Sometimes it's easier to knock them down a peg then to deal with all of the different accounts."
I told her she was being rude by doing that and she should really be nicer, her response was, "If you were a girl you would understand, ask (girlfriend's name) she gets these messages all the time too. These guys don't let up and they can be ruthless, mean and annoying. Sometimes like a dog, you just gotta bite them on the ear, it's the only way some of them learn their lesson."
I told her no she was just being a bitch because she could be and these men were people too. To which her response was to get up and go to her room and now this morning shes giving me the silent treatment and so is my girlfriend. AITA?
My girlfriend (29) is a very lively and energetic person. But sometimes her behavior is really annoying for me (33). She wants me to share her joy for little meaningless things up tp 5 times a day. It's tiring.
Yesterday we went on a hike and she was constantly admiring the nature. "The grass has reached an impressive height." "These ducks have babies! Look! Three!" "Nature is healing my soul. Look at this panorama. Breathtaking."
She was obviously having the time of her life. I get it. There is a duck, there is some green grass and some hills where we were walking. But the hills are not that impressive and you can literally see them everywhere in our area. She made 3 or 4 comments about nature and it always included the imperative to look. But I just wanted to exercise and get the hike done as quick as possible. I know exactly where her behavior comes from. Her family does the same. "Look, James. The tit found a nest in our tree." "Mary, look how beautiful your cake glazing turned out to be. Delicious!"
I am so tired of looking. I don't want to give her that attention and the things she is pointing out don't make me happy. They mean nothing to me. So I guess I was being rude by telling her "Please. Please let me walk in peace and stop asking me to admire all this stuff. I don't want to!" She didn't take it well and we ended up being quiet for the rest of the hike. I didn't want to silence her. I am sorry and apologized but she was angry and avoiding me in our apartment. She said, "So what else am I supposed to talk about?"
My husband really wanted kids, I like kids and sort of wanted them, but I hate the work associated with babies. I would rather work a 18 hour shift than change a diaper and clean up vomit. So I made him agree before we got married if we have kids, he’ll stay at home and do all of the nights and cleaning up.
Well I’ve been working from home, and as I’ve been home he’s become increasingly difficult. He sleeps half the day away, and spends most of the time just lying in bed. I’ve been having to wake him up in the morning or he’ll sleep until noon. Then at night when she cries, he won’t get up and will wake me up and try and get me to do it. Obviously I say no, in which case he lets her cry for 5-10 minutes more before he finally gets up.
And now he’s been asking during the day too. Can I just change her once, can I just clean this up, can I just hold her. In the middle of work, I’m doing my job and he comes in and interrupts me. It’s ridiculous that I have to put up with it when he specifically agreed to do it. I’ve been locking my office door during the day, and tonight he blew up at me saying that I have to help out since I’m home anyway.
I went through pregnancy, I make our money, now he wants me to do what he promised to do. He says it’s unfair that he has to do it all, when again, he promised he would. How is it fair that I have to work and harass him to take care of her?
We’ve been fighting all night about it, and now he’s locked himself in the bedroom.
My son is 23 and got married two years ago. He and his wife are head over heels in love and her parents adore him. We invited them over for a Mother's Day dinner as we haven't seen much of them lately. They said they would love to and plans were made. Then they canceled at the last minute saying they had to work. They sent flowers to my wife on Mother's Day. We were both kind of sad though.
I went to his Facebook page today and noticed he didn't post anything. He usually posts a lot. So I went to my DIL's FB page and saw that this bastard and her didn't work last night - they were having dinner with HER parents. Her parents left comments like "you are the son we never had." There was no reason to lie. It would have upset us less if he had been honest and said he needed to do this Mother's Day with the in-laws. We would get it. My wife found out and was in tears.
I went on his FB page and told him he was a selfish asshole for lying after we did so much for them like helping them pay for the wedding and other bills. Then I went on my daughter-in-law's page and told her that I was sorry that she thinks she's too good for us but not too good to ask us for money when they didn't have it.
Now I know why he didn't post anything on his FB because he didn't want us to find out. It was on their pages for awhile and last I check, it has about 13 comments asking what was going on. They deleted the comments and I have heard nothing from them. I'm thinking about SHAMING them again.
My wife recently unexpectedly inherited a large sum of money from an elderly lady for whom she used to work as a housekeeper. She had worked for her for the last five years, during which time they had become quite close, as she seemed to be the only contact for her with the outside world, and to my knowledge she had no living family.
I have big plans for my wife's inheritance, this is life changing money which should be invested rather than wasted. The problem with this though is that my wife disagrees with me. She wants to do something in the elderly lady memory and also donate some of it to some worthy causes which the elderly lady supported. While I do appreciate my wife's generosity, I truly think this is not a good way for us to use the inheritance.
I tried telling her to leave this to me while she is grieving. We had a huge argument about it which ended up with her threatening me that she won't join bank accounts with me anymore and won't give me access to her inheritance. I truly believe my wife is not thinking clearly at the moment and I am considering investing it before it's too late.
My grandparents escaped France at the start of WWII. They lived in hiding during the war and after the war they started life over in America. So my French ancestry is very important to me. I speak French and my four children speak French. I am a single dad. Two of my children are still teens and living with me and my oldest two daughters are staying with me right now until the whole situation ends. My oldest daughter brought her boyfriend with her.
My children and I all speak French to each other inside the house. Ever since she brought her boyfriend home, my oldest daughter will not speak French. I will ask her a question in French and she will answer in English. I asked her why and she says she doesn’t want to alienate her boyfriend because everyone would be speaking French except him. I told her that she can speak French or leave. Now my daughter won’t talk to me in any language and my other children think I was too harsh.
I (22M) started dating my girlfriend (21F) in January. Unfortunately, I had to move about 3 hours north of her for work reasons.
We've been continuing long distance and it has worked out very well. She had to move in back in with her parents due to COVID-19, but moved into her parents office to have her own private space to do school work (she used to share a room there with her sister).
We were texting while we were setting up our new rooms and I mentioned how I thought it was cute we were doing this together. I made a point to her of putting my bed near an outlet so that I could charge my computer from there so I could always video chat her while I was in my bed.
I was video chatting her last night and she mentioned having to leave her bed to plug in her computer soon. I got very frustrated just because she knows I like the feeling of video chatting her while we were both in bed. I was like, "Didn't you understand that when I mentioned I was positioning my bed towards and outlet I wanted you to do that as well?"
She got very offended and started crying about how I have no right to tell her how to set up her own room and that she can video chat me fine from her desk. I was like, "Well, you know how important it is to me we do this from bed so it can feel like we're laying down next to each other."
She said I was being ridiculous and hung up the call, she hasn't spoken to me all day.
I truly feel like I totally have the right to be angry that she's ignoring what I said was important to me but I'd just like to confirm that. AITA?
It sounds like you have serious control issues, I honestly doubt that something like this is the first time you've been controlling over something small. I can't blame her for not talking to you all day, and honestly I wouldn't blame her if she just keeps not talking to you forever.
All started yesterday, I get home from running outside, threw my sweatpants on the floor. About 30 min's later she walks into the room and says she's going to start some laundry. Asked what I needed and told her, then she asked if the pants on the ground were dirty, said yeah without even thinking I left my Airpods in the pockets.
She started laundry, which I'm thankful for but she didn't check my pockets at all. So after the it's done washing she's comes into the room saying my headphones got washed. Asked her which pair (I have wired & airpods), she says my airpods. That's where I got furious. Told her "How can you be so clueless to not check pockets before washing". She Said "I'm sorry it was an honest mistake" I replied " I'm sure it was but your mistake cost me $250"
I told her I need $250 Right now no excuses. She gave me an excuse saying "I don't have $250 just to giveaway right now". Replied "that's not my problem". Kept saying she doesn't have it right now. Told me that right now she doesn't a timetable on when she will be able to pay me back. Also thinks "I'm not trying to work with her and being overly rude about the situation, and it could be handled a nicer and better way than I have."
If this was a job and you cost them money they would fire you and make you pay them back. No expectations here just because I'm her boyfriend IMO.
My ex's wedding was in February. And like you could guess, I wasn't personally invited nor was I told anything about it from him even though we spoke daily. Well I found out about it from his grandmother (we're close) and she suggested I 'gate crash' and that she would cover for me (think she doesn't like the bride). I was interested in going because I wanted to find some closure since we had broken up rather quickly a few months before and I still wasn't over him. So I said yes.
The day came and his grandmother "snuck" me in and we watched the ceremony. It was beautiful. I shed a few tears but it really solidified things. I was ready to leave afterwards but his grandmother pushed me to go to the reception as well and sit next to her at the family table. Pretty awkward but I went. I was still mingling with the family, standing up, when the bride and groom came. They came and greeted and she congratulated me on the pregnancy. I thanked her and said something about how I couldn't wait to co parent with the two of them. Turns out that she didn't know that I was pregnant (5 months at the time) with his child the whole time. She lost her s**t and ran out. He tried to run after her but then her dad came and started a scene. Lucky for me, my ex's brother came and helped get me out of there as soon as possible.
My ex still asks for updates but I recently heard from his grandmother they broke up and got an annulment. The 'bride' weirdly still follows me and comments/likes my pictures so I think she's fine with me but still, AITA?
My stepdaughter is living with my husband and I for the next year. Shes an educated young professional who’s saving up to buy her own home.
Since she’s moved in with us (past 3 months) she’s become increasingly snappy and unhappy with how her dad and I run our lives. We aren’t environmentally conscious enough because we don’t compost our waste, we are negligent because we leave lights on when we leave our home for security reasons, we should switch to electric cars, we are contributing to the inhumane treatment of cows by consuming dairy, the list is endless.
My cat Mango is getting to be an old ass man and he has lived a full life of eating whatever the f*ck he likes (obviously within what’s safe for a cat) and hes happy that way. My stepdaughter is now insisting she will purchase vegan cat food because seeing Mango eat meat makes her sick.
We feed him in the kitchen and she will literally throw up / retch/ leave the kitchen if she sees him eat meat. She HAS lost a lot of weight since claiming that seeing Mango eat meat makes her sick, and we leave out dry biscuits for him to snack on which also makes her sick. It’s not like we leave mess out but even if she smells his food in the am (which is gross, yeah, but the doors are open and that’s just life if you have a pet) she will heave and walk away.
Her dad and I both told her if she’s unhappy with it she needs to find someplace else to live and although we are genuinely sorry she’s lost her appetite and has lost weight we aren’t going to change Mangos lifestyle- she has yelled, cursed at us, cried, begged, etc, but no, we are NOT happy with Mango eating a vegan diet. We don’t feed him cheap food either, we feed him food quality cat food that isn’t processed or full of sugar or grain. It’s pretty much gourmet Gordon Ramsey worthy cat food.
My MIL has waded in after my stepdaughter told her we were being unfair by refusing to let Mango go on her preferred diet for him, and is accusing us of being cruel and shortsighted. She says we are letting her get sick, and that Mango won’t hurt from a change in diet, but stepdaughter is hurting.