Spent a day getting drunk with my father, who I'm not that close with and hasn't really been involved in my life much even though he lives one street away from me. Found out that the true reason that my parents split when I was two years old, was due to my mother sleeping with my fathers brother while my father was in prison.
That my mom tried to have CPS take my daughter from me when she was born by claiming I used drugs while I was pregnant. I was 9 yrs clean. She tried again when I was diagnosed with cancer. You would be amazed to see what doctors actual put in your medical records.
My Dad has been growing some apparently fantastic weed for over 50 years now, that's how he made car payments when he was unemployed for a few years, even though he could have worked but didn't. He's got a lot of nice things that are above his employment level. Didn't register why until Mom told us who used to be her supplier when she was in her hippy days.
Last I checked, years ago, he had the trust of numerous private landowners and the keys to the gates. They let him build and maintain feed plots for deer and turkey, so he can have his own private hunting land and be out on his own, but I'm pretty sure I know how he pays and is paid now.
Real country, this place. Fenced-off gates to roads you have to go on foot through thick foliage, to get around the gate that's blocking the only road in. Good 10 miles from the nearest police station, some of those plots. As close as he is to the Sheriff, I'm pretty sure he gets passes from the law for various reasons.
My Dad. This boring loner who's never been in trouble in his life. A real square who married a free love hippy. A weed outlaw.
Learnt that my father used to beat my mother, they both used to do drugs and shady s**t, and also learned that my father had the chance to have joint custody of me but he didn't bother going to the several court dates that were made to settle the matter. The last one hurt the most to learn.
That my uncle's son is not his son...his then wife was banging her cousin and boom, baby! To this day, my cousin doesn't know and treats his dad (who raised him as if he were his own and had never said a word about it to anyone but me) like s**t because of the lies his mother spread about him. I kind of want to tell him to do a DNA test so that he'll know and maybe, just maybe realize his mother isn't the saint she made herself out to be.
Me and a friend of mine were looking for something in his dad's computer. We found a hidden folder and curiosity won over fear. Inside, there were a lot of pictures of naked girls, but most of all.. cut off fingers. I'm talking about thousands of pictures with fingers that had been cut off.
That when my mother was pregnant (teenage pregnancy) with me she drank and did drugs because she never wanted to be pregnant with me and was planning on leaving my dad (which she did a year after she had me). She went to an abortion clinic but couldn't go through with it. She doesnt know I know and I will never tell her I know. I didnt find out until well into my adulthood and hold no hate for her. Regardless of what she did when she was young she raised me the best she could and gave me and my older sibling everything she could and was a hard working mom.
Just tonight, my "friend" who I haven't seen in a long time invited me to get drinks after work, then canceled because she was too tired. I found the photos a few minutes ago of her and some mutual friends out for drinks. So apparently I wasn't invited and she found a better option. She didn't realize I'd see the pictures.
For Christmas my step mom bought my dad a pretty cool custom sports jersey with the number 04, when my fiancé asked her what the number stood for her reply was “To represent our family, my two daughters, him and myself” completely leaving me out of the equation.
When my dad died, the Associate Pastor of my mom’s church spoke and talked about how devastating cancer is.
That pastor use to attend a different church, but had to leave after she faked cancer for two years. Her husband left her and her daughter disowned her after they found out. My mom was the secretary at that church. So she knew, and had already told me. And my dad’s funeral was only like 2 years after that.
I would have walked up to the podium and punched her in the face were it not disrespectful to my parents.
I know what's in my mums will. My brother gets almost everything- 90%.
I once kinda confronted her without letting on that I knew I was going to get that much less than him, and she said, she would give him a "larger share" because he was weaker and not educated , whereas since I am educated, I was going to be fine even if I got nothing.
I accepted it and moved on. Nothing is worth is worth my family man. My grandfather was self made, gave my father nothing but an education. He gave the rest land and cows and within less than a decade they were all destitute and begging from my Dad.
My father is self made and he's given me and education.
My dad told me that my mom has embezzled a lot of money from the places she used to work. They both also did drugs. My dad claimed he did it for recreation and could stop any time. Mom was different, and he said she had to have it. This explains her "fits of rage growing up." O asked dad how mom never got caught and he wouldnt give anymore details.