The first thought anyone has when falling in love is, "Yes! I'm in love!" The second thought they have is, "F**k. Does the other person love me back?" You have to do your due diligence and find out if it's the real deal for both parties. Otherwise, you could end up more broken than our current political system, and nobody wants that.
You can ask him if he'll move heaven and earth for you. And he might even say yes. But if he really loves you, he won't just say he'll alter the course of the sun, moon and stars simply because you want him to. He'll do things. They don't involve any celestial manipulation, or even any upper body strength. They involve his heart.
When someone loves you, they make time for you. No matter what they have going on, they'll push it aside just to see your face. Hell and/or high water is no match for their desire to see you. And they'll let you know that.
If he's just not that into you, he'll make up excuses as to why he can't drive five minutes to see you. If he really wanted to be with you, the bare minimum effort would literally be the least he could do. Don't put up with it. Wait for someone who will make the effort.
If your bae really loves you he'll do everything possible to be around you. Seeing you constantly wouldn't be seeing you enough. And if you can spend all your time together and not get sick of each other, then that's a relationship that's worth going the extra mile for.
When you love someone, you want to know more about them. Every little part of that person that makes them them is endlessly interesting. So when bae shows an interests in your interests, he's really showing an interest in you.
He doesn't give a shit about what you give a shit about. He gives a shit about you. And because you give a shit about what you give a shit about, he gives a shit about what you give a shit about. It's just logic. And the logic always works out to love.
If he's not afraid to be vulnerable around you, you can bet your life that he's also not afraid to feel the feelings he feels for you. Has your boyfriend shared those feelings that he feels? Has he told you his intimate secrets? Has he cried?
When you're in a relationship, you're at your most vulnerable. Putting yourself out there like that puts you at risk of losing it all. It's a high stakes situation. Not everyone is willing to gamble with their heart.
So the fact that your bae is letting you see his softer side means that he wants to keep you around for a while. And more importantly, that he thinks that you would let him. If that's the case, you definitely should!
Arguing with your significant other might seem like it's a bad sign. But believe it or not, it might not be a signal that your relationship is about to implode. Every couple argues. It's par for the course. But does he try to fix those arguments?
When you really love someone, every argument feels like you're being mortally wounded. Every mean barb might as well be a stab with a sword. Words hurt. You can't take them back. But you want to stay with the bae who desperately tries to retract his when he sees that they've hurt you.
If bae can't stay mad at you, that's a good sign. Someone who will stay up with you all night and hash it out is in it for the long haul. If he didn't care about your relationship, he wouldn't try to fix it.